Thought I'd make a few notes about things going on here around the holidays. Joe, Julie, Stacey, Levi and Micah left early Sunday morning for Auburn Alabama for a short visit with Erin, Eli and Elsie leaving Mom and me here to care for four dogs, two birds and a turtle - and each other. So far, so good, I think.
We had a good Christmas. Mom has been fairly disconnected about it all even though we have been baking and putting the tree up and going to church a few extra times. She sat with us around the tree on Christmas morning and took her packages, having to be prompted and helped to open them. It was probably a little overwhelming and confusing. But it was a good day for all.
I took today off in order to take care of a few things like laundry and tidying up around here and just relax with everyone gone. Mom and I made banana bread - she mashed the bananas and creamed the butter and sugar. While the breads were baking, we played with play doh and cookie cutters at the kitchen table making shapes and stories. Mom is very confused about where everyone is and even who everyone is. Tonight she asked me if I had ever visited her and Dom when they lived "up there." I said that I had and she told me a story about a young man wanting to take some girl with him across the street and asking Dom if it it was okay. At one point today Mom wandered to Julie's room where I was cleaning and then could not find her way back to her room. Over dinner of chicken sandwiches from Sonic (when we went to put gasoline in the car) Mom asked me if the other people left me here by myself to take care of everyone very often.
But the BIG news is that she got her hair cut. I kind of snuck it in yesterday during a outing to the dollar store where we had to buy booties and a blanket for the baby doll she got for Christmas, and a quick trip to the grocery store. Kroger's is in the same plaza as Pro Cuts, which is right next to Subway. I pulled into a parking spot and turned to her to say that this was a good time to get her hair cut. I got the stony stare straight ahead and a "no way" through clenched teeth. I pushed. She could get her hair cut here or I could cut it for her at home. Silence...and then "just two inches - only two inches, it had better not be anything else!" A slow, limping walk in (she does this for effect, only) and Mom was in the hairdresser's chair in no time. I got a chance to whisper to the stylist that Mom has Alzheimer's and is very confused. I let Mom do the talking with my support and she got a great haircut! A little more than two inches, of course, but she does not know that. I told her that she was absolutely right, two inches was just right. Her WHOLE objection was that it had to be long enough to curl under by her ears because - well you all know her prideful stories about her curly hair! It does still curl under at her ears, bot more importantly, it is not so long in the back that she can now actually brush all of her hair herself - more or less.
I may have told you that it is getting more difficult to report on Mom these days. Pretty much there is no drama but what has become more of a way of life for us. Mom does not have "behaviors" as much as she just needs much guidance and assistance and tomorrow she may need guidance and assistance with things differently than she did today. We speak simply and directly in order to communicate, often using visuals when possible. For instance: when asking her if she wants coffee, we show her the coffee cup and ask it more than once. After Mom mashed the bananas today, I had her cream the butter and sugar and said we were making banana bread. She asked if I had bananas.
That is life in Texas. From our family to yours - Happy New Year!! Plan to visit us this year!
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