Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Confused yet?

So Mom and I sat together in her office last night and put together some Valentine packages for most of you. The were mailed today. Mom was sooo confused. I asked her to get her mail so that we could use the return address labels and she really did not know what I was talking about. I finally found the mail in one of her drawers in a ziploc bag with a Christmas card from Bonnie in it. I suggested that some of the recent items she had made could be included in some of them and she wasn't grasping what I suggested. So I brought out two of her bags and tried to get her to put some things in the bags - one little step at a time and Mom could not put it together. She kept picking up the envelopes I had written names on, reading the names and commenting on what she read - Deena, she's in Alaska; Dick and Elaine, I wonder if they are still in one of the Carolina's?; Joyce has two girls; Bonnie, I don't remember her. Stuff like that. When we finished the envelopes and they were addressed, I had Mom try to seal them while I cleaned up but but she needed one on one attention for each envelope. The same was true as I had her affix the return address labels. Then I took each envelope and identified to whom it would go and prompted her memory about that person. This is how she always associates you - (some of them aren't kind) Deena she almost remembers and I was surprised that she put her in Alaska. But when I asked her again, she knew that Deena was her baby. When I mention Aunt Dolly I always have to say bladder cancer. When I say Aunt Joyce and Arizona, Mom mentions everyone going there one time. If I mention Bonnie, she is the "one I don't like." When I mention David - married to Bonnie but now married to Sherry, Mom tells me they have a baby. It seems she does not remember any of you but she remembers events or situations when I prompt her.

Today, Joe had a dentist appointment so he dropped Mom off at my office at 2:30. After finishing up a few things while Mom sat quietly, we left for the day by 3. She was pretty confused about where Joe was, why we were leaving, she didn't want to sit in my office all day, she should have just stayed home, etc. I got her to the car and asked if she would mind stopping at the craft store on the way home so I could pick up some stuff for a meeting I have on Saturday. Of course she wanted to go there so that kind of focused her. Until we got there and it was as if she had never been there! After 55 minutes in the store in the same aisle, I led her to the checkout. When we left Mom commented that she liked that store and if she ever runs out of things to do, she wants to go back there.

Dianne and Margaret are coming over tomorrow to take her to deliver her creations. She has had her shower and gone to bed. I am ready to call it a day also! I'll catch up to you all in a day or so! Thank-you for your love and support!

2 comments:

Deena said...

Never been to Alaska, heard it was nice. She remembers I am the baby, did I traumatize her that bad?

Motorcycle grandma said...

Although I have to admit this was difficult to read, I sincerely appreciate your candor.